This came up into my mind just when I was busy preparing for the 12th class board exams (or the secondary school final exams) and a newspaper caught my attention. Any newspaper was flooded then with daily news about the suicide attempts of school children. In the age when they should be playing and studying and full of life, they decide to end their life. I get the great pressure of not only performing well but of excelling in studies that usually gets a child. But thanks to my parents, I don’t feel the pressure at all.
This comes both from easy parents and understanding children. Both play a huge role in deciding each other’s happiness. Parents who give the freedom to their children about anything they want to do in life and constantly support them fully even if they fail are the greatest parents of all. And the children in turn, work hard and achieve what they want. And if they fail, get up, dust themselves and again try their best to achieve it and not end their lives because they just saw failure once. Thomas Alva Edison saw failure 1000 times before he made the light bulb. But he didn’t ran off the first time he failed. Instead he tried and tried till he succeeded. Learning from Edison, I just feel like everyone should know that there are no perfect people and everybody including the adults commit mistakes.
Why couldn’t we make him understand that a marksheet is someone else’s way of telling you who you are but nobody knows you better than you yourself. Why are marks the basis of life? Why everyone acknowledges a person because of his achievements and not because of his/her qualities and personality?
Yes exams are important for a lot of things in future but they are certainly not more important than someone’s life. Exams do not decide the important of life and marksheet are definitely not the end of the world. We will always get plenty of chances and opportunities to score well and to prove our potential but we have only one life fot it.
And this pressure is a deadly thing for any teenager with raging hormones waiting to get kicked in. And this whole situation makes them believe that there is not any way out. Sure there is!
There are many ways you can lessen the pressure and do what you love.
– Select a course that you’re both passionate and sure about. Half the journey is completed when you choose a course you’re interested. So, in case of any failure you don’t need any external source of motivation as it comes from within.
– Talk to your parents about what you want to do and how you wish to achieve it. They’ll react a little but in the end they’ll surely agree with you. After all they are your parents and they always want what’s best for you. So save them a heart break and go talk to them.
– Take up a hobby which you think is a talent. Practice and preach it and never let it go. This hobby will give you the courage to accept that what if you failed in your main study course, you still have this hobby which you’re great at and you could still do a million things with it. This will boost your morale and stop you from going the wrong way as you now know you are very unique and talented.
– And at last, don’t stress about marks. They are not that important anyway. They don’t measure your true merit. Instead study for knowledge, and the marks while automatically come to you. That’s a lot better than working day and night for just securing marks and in the end knowledge is what you lack.
– Everyone has them to believe that they are much more important than just a marksheet. They are loved and respected for who they are and how they play their roles on this earth.
“To err is to human” so remember that no mistake is ever so big that you can’t get out of it. So, try, try and try till you succeed.
Please spread the education among young minds who are the ‘future of this world’ and stop them from ending their precious lives. It’s more important to stay alive than to die for a piece of paper that people might not even remember few years from now.
If you are unable to understand or help them, please take them to the right resource, an understanding and accepting teacher, relative, friend or a counselor..